Indecisive? Who me?

This week thus far, I’ve managed to keep it date free. And I can’t even begin to tell you how relieved I am. There’s a whole other energy that goes into organising and running a “successful” dating life, and I just don’t think I have it!

Sunday I met someone in the afternoon. Neither of us were up to it – and we were really quite half-assed about it. We’d spent the preceeding 3 nights on the phone talking to one another for hours on end. And I did want to meet him, it’s just that he spent the afternoon repeating the things he’d already told me, and I was so hung over and tired I could barely respond. So where to with that one? Who knows?

I’m finding that I have absolutely no sense of judgement about whether a man genuinely likes me and wants to see me again, or whether he’s using that as his escape line. Two weeks ago I actually went onto a site I left long neglected in order to delete my profile. To my surprise, the Ad Man had sent me a message which was engaging and not a little cheeky. As was his priofile. I’m not much one for spontenaeity – I really had surprises. But having exchanged messages, numbers and then texts, when he told me he had a spare ticket to the Spigeltent for the following afternoon, I accepted. I’m very glad I did – had a delightful time and we arranged to meet up the following afternoon. When I left his apartment  (an enormous converted warehouse arrangement) he asked me to text him the next day – actually we exchanged amusing texts on my way home and he did respond the next day and the next when I let him know that a friend had called to ask me who he was as she spotted us on Gertrude St on the Sunday. All good.But then silence. And more silence. And just when I had given up completely he texts and rings me. And wants to see me.

Likewise the Chemical Engineer I went out with a few weeks ago – we parted and I didn’t think there would be any more contact, but last night he did call and wants to see me next week. And the sportsman – persistent if a little abrupt but I know I can’t be bothered with someone so self absorbed they can’t articulate even a little.

So, I’ve made dates with all of them. And perhaps that’s what they do – and it’s why I can go two weeks without hearing from one or the other and another before we can meet, because I am busy and have a life. As they do. When I muttered that I didn’t think I’d hear from the Ad Man again, I was admonished with the facts, - that he’s single, busy, has a wide range of interests and wouldn’t bother me too much – perfect! I’m unable to tolerate dominant or pushy, demanding men, likewise disinterested one’s who leave me to do all the contacting, but they are the ones  I tend to fall for. Does that make me indecisive? Confused? Or that I just don’t know what I want? I happily confessed to the Ad Man during our first date that I had no idea what I wanted – and he thought that was just fine.